Sunday 8 July 2007

DO YOU THINK WE HURT PEOPLE DELIBERATELY?

Something very strange happened to me today. A friend of mine, infact a very good friend of mine called my house today but I wasn't home and I am not sure he realised that the ring had switched to answer phone mode- anyway sii he is busy talking about me with someone else and their conversation is being recorded!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! And it is about me.

Anyway this friend then calls me on my mobile (seeing I was not home) and of course bacoz I don't know about what is on the landline at home- sii I am tlking normally with this guy. Got off the phone- thought nothing of the conversation. Convo between two adults- at least that is what I thought. I get home listen to voice mail on landline- yaani, I listened kitu four times. First it was out of shock, then I was like " am I hearing right?", thirdly I was like "seriously!!!!!!!!", and then I was like "kwakweli this is ABOUT me".

Not to all and sundry- sii you make sure your phone is switched off before you embark on another conversation about the subject you have just called ama?

Anyway, what was said was uncomfortable to hear which leads me on to today's topic;

Do we know when we are hurting someone?

Do we hurt people on purpose? I know there is speaking the truth is love and sometimes it hurts, what am I talking about, most times it hurts lakini sometimes is it NOT done in love?

"They", I am back with my "they", but anyway "they" say, you hurt the people you really care about. Is that because we know they will always be there ama? And will they always be there.

And the purpose of hurting people is ....................................to feel better about ourselves or to beat them into shape or to show them the straight and narrow?

And I hear you ask, what happened to the friend and his unintentionally left "lovely" message....................................I think I may just unintentionally leave him a message as well by mistake.Lakini why waste both our times........................these boots were made for walking...................nipishe!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

17 comments:

Prettylyf said...

I think sometimes some people do, hurt others deliberately, it's an unkind thing to do though at least I think so.

Pole, that must have been a bad thing for you,cheer up sometimes that's what it takes to really know our true friends from not.

Happy week! :)

Princess said...

That sucks!!! I think that people sometimes intentionally hurt others and think if they apologize later it will make up for it!!!

I had a friend who is abrasive and had a tendency to just spew venom at people when things did not go her way, and I just cut her off because I got tired of her always doing that and then later on saying she was sorry!! After a while, her apologies just lost meaning!!!

Unknown said...

It happens!
Just keep on walking

Anonymous said...

Not so sure about that they do it on purpose...sometime its inadvertent...now when they do in a silly slip up like that...arrrgh!...shtepping!!!

Anonymous said...

ok, as wierd at it sounds at times people hurt others to prevent a worse 'hurt' later on.
Most times though at some point i don't think anyone 'hurts' others intentionally..then again when you do realise that u hurt some1 si you apologise ama?
That guy who left a message on ure phone..Ish..abu do a ka jig like this as you walk!

Quintessence said...

My naivety agrees that we hurt those who we know love us unconditionally either because a) we are unaware that we are hurting em b) we know they will forgive us

gishungwa said...

If they had such things to say maybe its better said in your face then maybe then we can say its hurt in love else its BS. Just walk away its better...

Gay Nairobi Man said...

I agree with Betty. It is possible I believe ok to hurt someone deliberately to avoid a bigger hurt eventually. There is a dude I have advised on my blog to dump his chick now instead of cheating on her with dudes.

In this case, he will be hurting her deliberately but will save her a bigger hurt later

Seasons & Reasons said...

There are times that I have been hurt by people close to me and their apologies ring hollow coz I tell the hurt was deliberate.

I cant remember ever premeditating to hurt someone

IJEOMA said...

yeah.. of course we do.. particularly when we are hurt ourselves..

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Girl next door said...

It's really hard to undo the damage that words will cause. If we knew people would overhear our conversations, I think we'd be much more careful what we said.

Anonymous said...

Good post.

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